Living your dream is always what everyone wants to achieve. Who wouldn’t want to wake up one morning and look around to see that they have it all. We all have that ambition to lead a life full of comfort and lavishness. But one often misinterprets the result. Climbing a mountain requires you to start at the bottom. Anybody can dream of standing at the top with an imaginative view. Very few people make an attempt to struggle and actually enjoy the view. It’s simple to win at life, here’s how-
Why do we falter?
Achieving goals requires the right amount of attitude, tough mentality and strong determination. The problem with most of us is we give up even before we begin. 50% of our battle is lost because of the emotional turmoil within ourselves. Most of us do not even know our own goals. What are we doing? Where are we going? We keep going in circles until we hit a full stop. Feeling hopeless when we hit a dead end. Because most of us have only known this one route that leads us to our destination. When that road leads you nowhere you falter.
20 Ways to Win at Life
People live as if their blood is getting sucked out of the skin. Well it is your losing attitude that makes you feel that way. One gets distressed when things go south. Here are 20 ways that helps you win at life:
1. List Your Goals
The biggest problem for most of us is that we do not set goals. Setting your goals helps you place importance on the things that you want to do. If you want to be an athlete, you have to live the life of an athlete. You need to set your target to become healthy and fit like an athlete. Acknowledging your intentions, taking action and reflecting will help you cross the finish line.
2. Be Confident
Being confident is one of the most amazing skills you can have. You can start off by thinking confident thoughts. So you have done something such as painted a picture, written a rough draft or designed a piece of clothing. Instead of saying,“It is not that good,” say,” It was a great attempt. It needs improvements but I took the first step.” This will be a drastic improvement and you will gain self confidence.
3. Learn to be Grateful
Gratitude is a very powerful exercise. One should learn to say thank you even in the most difficult situations. This will help you embrace uncertainties and become fearless.
4. Own Your Mistakes
Taking responsibility for your actions helps you understand your goals. Sometimes we do not wish to own our mistakes due to the fear of judgement. But when you take responsibility, you will stand up for yourself and gain respect from others. A person who cannot own their mistakes will never win at life.
5. It’s Okay to Fail
Embarrassment is evident when one fails. Failure is considered to be one’s inability to achieve a goal. The truth is we all fail. If you don’t fall, how will you learn to stand straight. So if you fail, don’t be afraid, try harder next time and keep challenging yourself.
6. Chase Your Dreams
We are afraid of following the path that we want because we fear we will be a disappointment. This is the exact reason why you should follow your dreams. Don’t let your fear hold you back from achieving your dreams.
7. Embrace those Experiences
Life brings you good as well as sour moments. You will have a fair share of your experiences. Good ones will make you nostalgic. Sad ones will teach you a lesson. Don’t stop there. Go out and experience new things. Enjoy that roller-coaster ride while it lasts.
8. Be Yourself
We are all guilty of trying to be someone other than ourselves to impress others. You can show off in front of the entire world. But how will you hide from your own reflection? Only when you accept who you are deep within yourself, you will win at life.
9. Learn Daily
Learning is a must follow daily ritual. It will always add more value to your life. Learn a new skill, read that new book, cook that new dish and so on. It will help you feel more excited about life.
10. Face your Fears
The one thing that we would rather run away from: facing your fears. Facing your fears will help you take control over your life and make you courageous. Every day note down one thing where you tried overcoming your fear. This will make you step out of your comfort zone and help you experiencing new things.
11. Learn to be Optimistic
We feel like it is the end of the world if we hit a roadblock. Things are not always going to be in your favor. Your new business may fail, you might miss out on that new job opening, the love of your life has left etc. but try having a positive out;look on each scenario. Your new business failed only for you to reevaluate yourself. You missed out on the new job opening because there was a better opportunity elsewhere. The love of your life left you only for you to meet the right person. Situations take place for a reason. Do not wear yourself out for things going wrong. Try to be positive and see it from a long term perspective.
12.Talk Less, Listen More
As human beings we love having a conversation where we get to talk about ourselves. But listening is an art only few possess. Listening to someone talk does not mean you should agree with them. It means you respect them and their views. Sometimes, you can pick up valuable lesson by listening to someone.
13. Patience is the Key
Patience is a virtue very few people have mastered over a period of time. The Chinese bamboo tree takes five years to grow. The seeds have to be watered and fertilized where they have been sown. The tree breaks through the ground on the fifth year. Once it breaks through, it grows up to 90 feet tall within five weeks. You will not get instant results. Do not let this stop you from fulfilling your dream. You have to sow your seeds, water them and be patient for the plant to grow.
14. Respect Others
Many people look down on others because they feel that they have achieved something great in life. Instead of criticizing others, one should try to uplift them. We are all on the same journey but in different ways. We should always try to respect others and help them out.
15. Utilize your Time
Most of us are living as if we are going to be living for the next 50 years. Life has its uncertainties. Hence, we should try to utilize our time in the best way possible. If you are thinking of delaying something, do it right now in this moment. You never know what tomorrow brings in for us.
16. Be committed and Focus
Two key aspects for achieving any goal is being committed towards your goal and being focused on your goal. If you are committed towards your goal you will try to achieve it through thick and thin. Your goal should be your main focus. When you lack focus towards your it means you are not serious about it. Winning requires you to be serious about what you want to achieve.
17. Purpose of your Life
Define the purpose of your life. It could be anything. It could be helping a needy person, earning to support your family or building connections. Fulfilling your purpose will give you satisfaction. This will improve your attitude towards life and spread optimism.
18. It’s a Choice
Going through tough times can put us in a lot of stress. But sometimes we get stressed without the situation taking place. It is human nature to foresee certain situations and worry about them. Therefore, we all have a choice. You can either choose to worry about the situations that can arise in the future or you can prepare yourself to face them. We all have a choice. Some of us don’t even realize it while others use it as an opportunity.
19. Change Your Perspective
Perspective is the way we decided to look at our surroundings. Every person will have a different perspective. But if you want to win in life you have to change the way you look at things. If two people look at a glass of water filled up halfway both will have different views. One may see it as half empty and another as half full. Both are right from their perspective. But a winner will always try to look at things from a positive angle.
20. Take that Risk
You are in a room surrounded by darkness. You are afraid to take the next step due to lack of vision. Often times in life we are afraid to take the risk due to fear of failure. How will you know if you don’t take the next step ahead. Truth is you won’t. So, take that risk. Start that podcast, travel, pursue your passion and it will set you free. Most successful people are the ones who take that risk.
“Your strength doesn’t come from winning. It comes from struggles and hardship. Everything that you go through prepares you for the next level.”
Germany Kent
You will fall. You will fall more than the milk teeth you have lost. But do not give up. Find that ray of sunshine even on your darkest days. Be strong because no one else will be there to lift you up. Get comfortable in your own skin. Life is difficult, there is no doubt about that. But one thing that always separates winners from losers is that they never quit. So when you fall, get up one step at a time and keep moving forward. This is how you win at life.